Thursday, October 8, 2009

Are you F'in Kidding Me?

Thursday, October 9, 2009

Current mood: Outraged!

I can't believe how stupid people are. I was on Facebook yesterday and one of my friends posted the above picture.

Is this really what people think? If so, society has some real issues.

First of all let me start off by saying that when I was going through my treatment, I ran across some stupid people. I remember once someone told me that it wasn't all that bad, I was getting new boobs. They thought I was getting breast implants, which I did not.

Let me just set the record straight. Having a mastectomy and have implants for your reconstruction is totally different than having implants to enhance your breast. BIG BIG difference. Breast implants by themselves are ugly.

I chose to have the DEIP Tram Flap as my reconstruction. And NO, I did not do this for the tummy tuck. I did it to have a more natural breast. Another thing people don't understand is that with implants you need to have them replaced ever 10-15 years. Being so young at the time of my diagnosis I did not want to have to go back to doctor over the years for replacements. I just wanted my surgery to be done and over with.

Another thing people don't understand is that when you have a mastectomy and they remove the breast they remove your "whole" breast. That means the nipple and all the nerves as well as the breast tissue. Even with reconstruction you are never going to have that feeling back in your breast. People don't talk about that either.

What this picture is not showing is the women with a bald head with her face in the toilet throwing up from the chemo. And chemo does not always make you skinny. Depending on the medication you are given, you may gain weight. It happened to me. Where is the display of medication bottles found on the kitchen counter. Pills for the nauseau and pain that goes along with chemo. Or the hours of rehab that goes along with the surgery. Where's the walker? When I came home from the hospital, I couldn't stand straight up. I could barely walk up and down the stairs to my bedroom. Oh, I guess that's not pretty too so we won't show that.

I would glady give up my fake boobs and tummy tuck for my natural breasts back.

So here's what I have to say to the picture...Be careful what you wish for...


Breast Cancer Survivor! said...

Cathy Bueti commented on your status:

"I just read your blog and I was going to post a blog today about this same topic!! I saw this pic on someone's page and thought WTF!!"

Breast Cancer Survivor! said...

Cyndy Sotomayor commented on your status:

"Wow...just wow...I can't believe someone can be so stupid to think that is funny. When I was dx'd (with lymphoma, not breast cancer) a woman told me to look on the bright side: "You'll come back to work all skinny and svelte and you're hair will be thick and gorgeous." I'd very happily go back to being my pre-cancer weight with my original hair if I could forego the whole cancer experience. IDIOTS!"

Breast Cancer Survivor! said...

Karen Slipski commented on your status:

"just read your blog and i have to agree how can people be that stupid!"

gracipher said...

obviously not a cancer patient/survivor who wrote this in to Postsecret... sad.

People should really think before they make such statements - ridiculous!

Hänni said...

Hi, stumbled on your blog doing a search for "hello crapness my old friend" (don't ask). I remember seeing that postcard and I'm glad you made a response. I didn't know the difference between reconstruction and implants. Congratulations on surviving cancer. I love your blog title!

shelli said...

Stupid thing...most of us seem to gain weight during chemo thanks to the steroids to fight the only get all skinny when you're almost dead...stupid woman.

Here's to surviving!!!

The Liz Army said...

OMG. Who ever created that graphic is a douche bag.

Great post.