Tuesday, January 24, 2012

Finding Love after Breast Cancer

Tuesday, January, 24, 2012

Current Mood: Lovestruck

So, I'm throwing this question out there to all my cancer survivor friends? After all the cancercrapness that we've gone through do you now look at love and relationships differently.

I guess I'm asking this because it seemed so hard in the beginning. I know I had to be happy with myself first and had to learn and accept my scars and new body. And I knew I couldn't share this anyone until I was OK with it myself.

Going out on those first few dates was scary! But I also knew what I wanted and what I didn't want. And I knew for sure, that I was not settling! Life is way too short to not be happy and to just settle.

I remember hearing in a cancer seminar for singles, that the success rate in marriage in survivors in much higher than ones that have not experienced this. I think that kinda makes sense. I think we at look at things differently. I know I do.

My biggest fear after my diagnosis was, is a guy ever going to want to be with me again. I felt like damaged goods. Who would want to date the girl with two fake boobs and a ton of scars?

I can hear my friends telling/yelling at me now. Jill, if he is the right one, he will accept you for you and love you for you not your body and scars. I guess at the time I thought that was true.

I am happy to say that there are some sweet guys still out there that have said those very same words to me. Words, that I think every Breast Cancer Survivor needs and loves to hear.

I am happy to say that I have found one of those sweet guys.

Thank you Joe for accepting me for who I am and for helping me to see a future again.


Cathy Bueti said...

Jill !!! So happy to read this post! What wonderful news!! I am beyond thrilled that you have found your own "lou" !! ;)

Sometimes it seems as though it will never happen and then all of a sudden . . . there he is!

Hugs to you!!! Wanna hear more about this amazing man!!


tahera said...

This is a very emotional post, thank you for sharing your personal experience on breast cancer surgery. Keep writing, good job.